The Only Way To Win

Hullo loyal readers. Hope everyone had a fantastic weekend, and is off to a great start this week. If not? I have great news! Theres still several days left to turn it around. πŸ˜‰

So, I’ve written some on this topic in the past, but its a subject that most people (myself included) can always use the reminder of.

Comparison is a futile effort, and is incredibly exhausting. I can attest to this from plenty of experience, sadly. I have been making a conscious effort over the past few weeks especially not to do it, but after doing it so long, the habit is deeply engrained, and will take more time to kick. I found myself doing it again this afternoon while going for a jog. All those people out there going further and faster than me, not sweating nearly as much as me, and not taking nearly as many breaks. This was frustrating for but a moment, but even so, I had to remind myself that my “prologue” is not the same as someone else’s “chapter ten.” I’ve just gotten back into cardio-focused workouts after a long break, and like so many things in life, it takes time to build stamina, endurance, muscle, etc. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: “Consistency is POWER.”

Now, as humans, its easy to fall into this comparison trap. We do it all the time. We compare education, jobs, houses, cars, relationships, children, body types, the list goes on and on. While having something to strive for is not a bad thing, dwelling on the status of others will suck the life out of you. Also, the sobering truth is that even if you instantly had everything you think you want that you think will make you happy, theres always going to be someone out there with more, or better things, and then you’d be comparing yourself against that! See how stressful and futile it can be? It may sound cliche, but accepting yourself fully for who and what you are, right here, right now, is the crucial first step in obtaining true inner peace, joy and satisfaction. Dream big and have goals, but do it at your own pace, and not at the expense of your sanity.

Its easy to get carried away with comparison especially in regards to mental health. I know I find myself constantly scrutinizing myself for being as well adjusted or socially adept as other people. The truth is though, I couldn’t be if I wanted to be. At least not right now. I’m taking bold strides and making progress in my recovery, but its not fair to me to irrationally expect too much of myself. Plus, putting other people on a pedastal, thus giving them power over you is never a good idea, regardless of how normal you are. Plus, whos to say that half the folk you look on as being so “well adjusted” aren’t just “faking it ’til they make it” like you and I? Food for thought. As I was out jogging the past few days, a mantra kept coming to mind. It goes like this:

This is about you. Its about your goals, your potential, and your recovery. It ultimately doesn’t matter what anyone else sees, says or thinks. You’re doing this for you. Be consistent as fuck. You owe it to yourself to see how far you can go, and what you can accomplish. Keep doing what you can to be the best version of yourself: physically, mentally and spiritually. Then let the results speak for themselves.

Thats a good all around reminder me thinks. I dig it.

So, as I’ve said before, comparison truly is the thief of joy. You’ve only got one life, so you owe it to yourself to take it at your pace, and live it on your terms. Remember, when it comes to the comparison game, the only way to win…is not to play. πŸ™‚

Thanks for checking out this post, and leave me a like, subscribe and feedback if you would be so kind.

Have a great rest of the week, and I’ll see ya back here later this week.

– Andy


8 thoughts on “The Only Way To Win

  1. balancingactnicole September 26, 2018 / 3:32 pm

    I feel so many people can relate to this! I know I definitely can!

    • Growing Pains September 26, 2018 / 3:39 pm

      I feel like everyone can on some level, if they admit it. Writing this was definitely a reality check for me. Glad it spoke to you.

  2. Letitgocoach November 3, 2018 / 9:33 am

    Reblogged this on Letitgocoach and commented:
    The community of WordPress is beautiful.

    We lift each other up, and love on one another with comments. Andy here recently nominated me for the Sunshine Blogger award.

    This is my way of saying thank you. To introduce him to you by sharing his work to my WordPress family.

    I love what Andy says about the comparison game. The best way to win is not to play. Thank you Andy for your sharing your wisdom, and your friendship. xx

    • Growing Pains November 3, 2018 / 9:39 am

      You are very kind. Thanks so much for all. πŸ™‚

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