Guest Post! 🙂

Hey gang.

Doing something a little different this week.

The major focus of this blog is to help encourage/aid people in their recovery from mental illness. If you don’t struggle with mental illness yourself, its likely you know someone who does, so an awareness/appreciation of what they go through is healthy for both parties.

As such, I had the idea to invite friends of mine to occassionally do guest posts here, allowing them to share their story, instead of just hearing from me all the time.

This is something I’m super excited about, and today marks the beginning of this initiative. As such, I’m thrilled to present this first guest post, so graciously written by my good friend, Macon Clement.

So, check out what she has to say, and leave her some love.

Thanks all, and catch ya later!

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Hello everyone!

I have been invited by Andy to do a guest entry for his blog. I was hesitant at first, as I loathe writing. But because he is a good friend I thought I would take the plunge and share my story about my anxiety and other mental health issues that I battle with daily. It’s also possible that this probably would be therapeutic, and my therapist would say “go for it.”

Anywho, where to start? I suppose an introduction wouldn’t hurt.

I am studying science at my local community college to eventually transfer to a four-year university to study meteorology. I am curious about many things and have been fascinated with nature and how things work. I also have a few mental health issues that make every day seem like there is a battle going inside my head. Some days I can be happy and full of energy. Other days I am a ball of anxiety and it’s a struggle to get out of bed in the morning. My anxiety comes from a mixture of General Anxiety Disorder, Aspergers, which means I am a high functioning autistic. I also have this little-known disorder called, Disorder of Written Expression: What it basically boils down to is that I have difficulty processing information I just read, how to summarize it, and at the same time, trying to form all those thoughts into proper sentences.

My anxiety does give me hard time; I have gradually gotten better at controlling it, but it is a battle most days. I have tried many ways to get a better handle on it: I changed my diet, and started meditation/mindfulness, and started exercising in the morning. I do some journaling which helps get those pesky thoughts out on paper to get me see what my thoughts are and why they are bothering me. Writing poetry about my anxiety is also therapeutic. You name it, I’ve tried it. I am currently working through a Mindfulness Cognitive Behavior Therapy (MCBT) workbook. We shall see it if works.

If you’re out there suffering from anxiety, try any method, or techniques that will help ease your pain, so that you can enjoy life more. Sitting and sulking in anxiety and misery without trying anything for relief, can be miserable. You deserve better. I’ll bet you are an awesome person just waiting to spread your wings to make the world a better place. 😊

One of my classes has been particularly difficult this semester and has caused me much anxiety. It is Calculus III. Also known as Multivariable Calculus. It’s basically Calculus I but in three dimensions. I need this class, and other math classes to transfer. When I have a tough day in math class, my mind yells at me and says “you’re not good enough. This math isn’t for you; you had a bad day, so this means you suck at math.” Which is simply not true. I have had terrible horrible days in math in college before, and I made it through. It has always been a battle of the fight or flight instinct. Many times I have considered dropping the class because my anxiety was telling me to run from a difficult course. Because when times get tough, I want to run far from those tough times. I want to crawl under the covers of my bed and never come out. I want to run away. I eventually pull through and come back to my senses. I tell myself I have come too far to give up now. I started in developmental math classes and worked my way up. I used to despise math. I have learned to love it. It is fascinating, and I couldn’t have been more wrong about it. When I read the book The Magic of Math, by Arthur Benjamin, was I think, the moment I fell in love with math. Or as the Mean Girls Broadway musical puts it, I have “calculust”.

There was one particular moment this semester in that class that really was, and is, a hard pill for me to swallow. It was tough to come back from this moment. I failed a math test. I mean I was devastated. I thought, “well there goes my GPA, down the toilet. You suck at math. Why do you even bother with this stuff? You can never be a good meteorologist if you failed a test.” I was upset. It felt like a huge blow to whatever confidence I had to start with. I wanted to kill myself. Sadly, that thought came to me. I wanted to go get in my car and deliberately drive off the road. I wanted to do that just because I failed a test. I didn’t do it, my anxiety stopped me. The good kind. It told me that people love me, even if I know it or not, and that I still have to become a meteorologist and save people from the path of severe weather.

To all of you anxious people out there, never give up. Don’t let your anxiety tell you what you can and cannot do. Don’t let your anxiety rule your mind. Yes, it is difficult most days, or a few, but you can do it. If you have made it through difficult times before—you can do it again! Always believe that you can do anything. Believe in yourself and your abilities. If we let our anxiety control us, what are we missing out on in the world? What new adventures could we have missed out on? Most importantly, be fearless. But be fearless with common sense, don’t just like go over Niagara Falls in a barrel.

I will leave you with a quote that has been helping me lately.

“You are braver than you believe, you are stronger than you seem, you are smarter than you think, and you are loved more than you know.” – Christopher Robin.

Hope everyone has a fantastic day!

Best,

MC Squared

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You Aren’t That Special

And thats a good thing.

People like myself that deal with social anxiety can often be, well…just too damn sensitive.

A recent example of this. I went for a walk in one parks near where we live. I could feel myself tensing up in the car ride to said park, even though I was traveling alone. I was already doing breathing exercises and a lot of calming self-talk, trying to slow my heart rate and calm my nerves before I ever got to my destination.

All I wanted to do was get in a few miles. Get my heart rate up. Burn some calories. Enjoy some sunshine and fresh air. I was gripped by this irrational fear though, that everyone at the park was going to be watching me and talking about me; thinking about how nervous I must look, or how awkward my walking is, or…something!

This continued well into my first mile, before I was able to get a grip on my thinking and calm my nerves.

One of the biggest things that helped me this time was one of the simplest. Something I learned early on in cognitive-behavioral therapy. Its called the “Look Around Technique.”

This is incredibly basic. All it means, is when you’re feeling self-concious, like all eyes are on you, take a quick look around. You’ll likely notice that in reality, no one is looking at you at all. Everyone is preoccupied doing their own thing, whether it be talking on the phone, minding their children, taking pictures, or simply making sure they themselves don’t look silly or awkward.

The point is, everyone is primarily worried about themselves, and in the grand scheme of things, you’re just not that important to other people, at least in casual public settings.

So, give it a shot, and then allow yourself the freedom to do you. Hey, even if you do appear awkward for one reason or another, no one really cares, and good on you for getting out there and doing your thing anyway. 🙂

Can you relate to feeling self-conscious in environments such as these?

If so, how do you cope?

Have you used the look around technique?

Be sure to like and subscribe for more content such as this, and thanks for reading gang. I greatly appreciate it.

Have a great weekend, and talk soon.

– Andy

Can People Change?

Its an interesting question, isn’t it?

Its something I’ve heard people muse upon my entire life.

More often though, I hear the question posed as “Do people change?”, and theres a distinct difference there.

Throughout my extensive research to understand my own issues, I’ve learned a lot about the human condition; how genetics can affect things, as well as our environment. The whole “nature vs. nurture” thing. Its fascinating stuff, especially in regards to how much people inherently do seem to change through childhood, adolescence and into early adulthood. Most of what I’ve come across suggests that considering all factors, a person’s overall personality/temperament/habits are pretty much “fixed” around age 30, though there may be minor fluctuations.

From what I’ve observed in my own life, and the lives of those around me, I think that conclusion is pretty spot on. For that reason, I would argue that the answer to the question “Do people change?” is a resounding no, for the masses.

Now, I’m not saying thats a bad thing. Having a clear sense of self, goals and overall stability is very healthy and good. Theres a lot to be said for knowing who you are, and thus knowing what you want, and what you’re capable of. Plus, other people having a clear idea of who you are makes relationships easier as well, as they can assume common interests, sense of humor, etc. So, after a certain point, most people likely don’t change much, and thats okay.

The question I pose though, is “Can people change?

For our purposes here, I’m referring to people around age 30 and up, whose personalities and such are presumedly “fixed.”

After doing a fair amount of research on the subject, I’m gonna go with a confident yes. People absolutely can, and do change. A word of caution though: Its not easy, and often the catalyst for change is something altogether unpleasant.

Theres a lot to consider here. For some people, the “way they are” is heavily influenced by genetics. Inherited traits that an individual had no control over, that may not even manifest until later in life. Other traits are simply developed over time. Words, thoughts and actions that are conciously or unconciously repeated over the course of many years, thus forming neural pathways, “habits” that are deep-rooted, and hard to break. Regardless of the reason a person developed the way they did (physically/mentally/emotionally), breaking free of all that programming is an uphill battle.

Thankfully, the science of “neuro-plasticity” is real. Thank goodness! Theres hope!

What this means, is that science has successfully verified, via brain scans, that with enough time and repetition, the way people think, feel and behave CAN be changed. Think about it. This is actually pretty basic. We see it all the time. Someone who stops drinking/smoking/doing drugs. Someone who quits a pornography addiction. Someone who recovers from anxiety/depression. Its essentially what therapy/rehabilitation is built on. People who learn to speak/read/write/walk again following an accident or trauma. People who radically transform their bodies late in life. People who develop a new skill such as playing an instrument or learning to paint. Yes, you can teach an old dog new tricks!

The proof is undeniable. People can and do change all the time. Some may have a more difficult time than others, due to a number of factors, but if the person is willing to put in the time and effort, stays focused and avoids self-sabotage, the results are there, just waiting to be claimed.

Now, thats all well and good. Very encouraging even. Being that this blog is focused on mental health, however, the big question is, can people struggling with mental health issues get better? Again, I say yes. The caveat though, taken both from my research and personal experience is that these things are often the hardest to change, and take the most time and effort. To put it bluntly, its grueling.

I first began researching neuro-plasticity when I found out there was empirical evidence for a change in brain chemistry following cognitive-behavioral therapy to treat social anxiety and the associated depression. Recovering from mental illness is definitely a different beast than healing a broken bone, for example, but so much of it is engrained in deep-rooted thoughts and habits, that, just like treating an addiction, can be changed. With this kind of positive change being so difficult though, people have to really be motivated to change, and often it takes some kind of mental/emotional trauma, or “hitting rock bottom” to force said change. I wish it weren’t so, but thats the reality of it. However, in some regards, its not much different than someone finally deciding to get in shape after being diagnosed with something stemming from obesity, someone quitting smoking after being diagnosed with lung cancer, or someone suffering the loss of a relationship due to a porn addiction. Sometimes, we have to be burned, to rise anew from the ashes.

So, to wrap things up, while certain aspects of personality may be “fixed,” behavior, which can have a definite influence on personality can be changed. It takes time and effort (a lot of both), and an unwavering drive and dedication, but if someone truly desires to change, I believe they can, and that hope is definitely something worth celebrating.

So, what do you think?

Do you think people can change?

Have you known someone that substantially changed for the better?

Have you yourself made an effort to change? Why?

Thanks as always for the support gang. Leave me a like and subscribe for more content such as this, and share this with someone who needs it.

Hope everyone has a fantastic day, and see ya at the next one.

Peace & Blessings,

– Andy

Back To School

I’ve heard many times throughout my life that once you have kids, they’ll end up teaching you more about life than you could ever teach them.

Though our daughter only just turned four, my wife and I can already attest to this, and I’ve written a lot about this subject in previous posts. Sometimes its not the child directly that does the teaching though, but rather some circumstance brought about as a result of having said child or children.

This story takes place a few weeks ago, on a lazy, rainy Saturday. After struggling for a bit to figure out what to do for family entertainment, my wife finally made the brilliant suggestion of having a movie night at home, with some kid-friendly features because, well, its mostly what we do now. After some debate, we opted to first watch the Monster’s University, as I had never seen either movie in the franchise, and none of us had seen this prequel film.

The abridged version of the story is that Mike Wazowski (the short, green, one-eyed, goofy looking critter) goes to college to pursue his dream of being a “Scarer,” which is deemed the pinnacle of success for creatures in this world. Despite his continued best efforts, Mike is ultimately forced to come to the conclusion that he simply isn’t scarer material. The inherent way he is, from both a nature and nurture standpoint, simply does not lend him the skills and attributes to be successful in this arena, even though its something he has longed for his entire life. Mike understandably struggles with this notion for most of the film, but eventually finds both acceptance and success as a logistics partner of sorts to Sully, a monster who is inherently better skilled at being a scarer, due to size, strength, growl, etc.

Theres a lot more I could go into here, but thats really all I need to explain to get my point across here.

Baring my soul, I couldn’t help but identify with Mike in this film, and I have a feeling thats what was intended by the creative team. If do, kudos guys. Job well done. I think everyone has related to Mike at a certain point in their lives. Wanting to do or be something so bad, but due to circumstances beyond our control, a certain goal or aspiration was always just out of reach. As a shy kid growing up, I often longed to be one of the popular kids. As adult struggling with social anxiety and depression, I’ve frequently longed to be a more well-adjusted “normal” person.

Though I was definitely not expecting to learn some sort of existential truth from a children’s movie, I’m really not surprised. Studios often incorporate some sort of theme or moral issue into these kinds of flicks, so that grownups can enjoy them too. It makes total sense, and I really appreciate that. Monster’s University re-inforced advice to me that I was getting from several sources at the time. That advice was ‘Use what ya got.’

This is nothing Earth-shattering, of course. We’ve all surely heard this advice or some variation of it many times throughout our lives. This hit me though at a pivitol point in my mental health journey, and so likely impacted me about 1,000% more than it would another casual viewer.

Instead of constantly being depressed and beating myself up over all the people/things I’ll never be/do, how much would my life change if I took all that time and energy, and properly focused it on my unique gifts and talents? To strive to life MY best life? To boldly live out MY purpose? To fully invest in MY passions? To stop believing others are somehow better than me, and just accept that everyone is gifted/talented in their own way, and thus best suited for a unique purpose? To finally realize that the same logic applies to me? To really live out that truth, and not only better my life as a result, but the lives of everyone around me? There lies the power to change my entire world for the better. All it would take was a simple shift in mindset. Mike Wazowski did it. Why couldn’t I?

So, I made the shift. At least, I’m working on it. Like anything dealing with mental health, it takes time, dedication and patience to part with old, limiting beliefs, and to build healthy new habits. I’m well on my way though, and already much happier as a result.

So, I challenge you to do the same today. If you’re like me, and tend to focus more on what you’re not, instead of what you are, shake things up a bit. Flip the script with your perspective, and see how things slowly begin to change. Skeptical? Its well worth the risk. You’ve got nothing to lose, and everything to gain.

So, take back your life. Find what makes you you. Embrace your gifts, talents, quirks, etc., and put ’em to work for you. Change the world as only you can. Oh, and check out Monster’s University. Its really fantastic. 🙂

Do you struggle with self-acceptance?

Have you ever been impacted by an event in a way you didn’t expect?

How has self-acceptance changed your life?

Thanks for reading gang, and leave me a like and subscribe to make sure you keep seeing regular content of this kind from me. Also, share this with someone who needs it. A lot of folks need the reminder.

Have a good one, and talk soon.

– Andy

Project Updates!

Hello again friends and loyal readers.

Just wanted to do a quick post updating everyone on some of my other projects.  Most of them I’ve discussed here in the past, but its been a while, so now felt like a good time to bring everything up to date.

One of my greatest hobbies/passions is music, and after playing guitar for many years, I switched over to bass about a year ago.  It was kind of on a whim, just to do something different.  I’ve really been enjoying it though, and have posted many videos of me playing songs that have spoken to/inspired me through the years on my YouTube channel.  I haven’t gotten a whole lot of interaction on the channel thus far, and thats something I’d like to change.  So, check out a few vids, and leave me some feedback.  I greatly appreciate it!  Heres one of my most recent vids that I’m really proud of:

Another thing I’m really into is building scale plastic models of military aircraft.  I’ve posted images of some of my past work here on the blog, but wanted to post an update pic of the P-51D Mustang WWII fighter aircraft that I’m working on for my dad.  Its been a slow process, as adulting tends to keep me pretty busy, but nevertheless, its coming along!  You can check out the models page via the link at the top of this page to see my last update on this project.  Heres the latest:

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I’ll be doing another fitness update in the near future, and also be looking forward to some news about a project I am super excited about!  I’m co-authoring a young adult fiction novel with a great friend of mine, so as the process moves along, I’ll be sharing more details here.

Also of note, I’ve been doing some writing on another blog here on WordPress, “Scribbler’s Arena.”  If you enjoy the content you read here, make sure to check out my stuff there as well, as well as all the other fantastic content from site contributors.

 

All right gang!  Thats it for now.  As always, thanks for reading, and hope everyone has a fantastic weekend.  See ya Monday!

– Andy

The Only Way To Win

Hullo loyal readers. Hope everyone had a fantastic weekend, and is off to a great start this week. If not? I have great news! Theres still several days left to turn it around. 😉

So, I’ve written some on this topic in the past, but its a subject that most people (myself included) can always use the reminder of.

Comparison is a futile effort, and is incredibly exhausting. I can attest to this from plenty of experience, sadly. I have been making a conscious effort over the past few weeks especially not to do it, but after doing it so long, the habit is deeply engrained, and will take more time to kick. I found myself doing it again this afternoon while going for a jog. All those people out there going further and faster than me, not sweating nearly as much as me, and not taking nearly as many breaks. This was frustrating for but a moment, but even so, I had to remind myself that my “prologue” is not the same as someone else’s “chapter ten.” I’ve just gotten back into cardio-focused workouts after a long break, and like so many things in life, it takes time to build stamina, endurance, muscle, etc. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: “Consistency is POWER.”

Now, as humans, its easy to fall into this comparison trap. We do it all the time. We compare education, jobs, houses, cars, relationships, children, body types, the list goes on and on. While having something to strive for is not a bad thing, dwelling on the status of others will suck the life out of you. Also, the sobering truth is that even if you instantly had everything you think you want that you think will make you happy, theres always going to be someone out there with more, or better things, and then you’d be comparing yourself against that! See how stressful and futile it can be? It may sound cliche, but accepting yourself fully for who and what you are, right here, right now, is the crucial first step in obtaining true inner peace, joy and satisfaction. Dream big and have goals, but do it at your own pace, and not at the expense of your sanity.

Its easy to get carried away with comparison especially in regards to mental health. I know I find myself constantly scrutinizing myself for being as well adjusted or socially adept as other people. The truth is though, I couldn’t be if I wanted to be. At least not right now. I’m taking bold strides and making progress in my recovery, but its not fair to me to irrationally expect too much of myself. Plus, putting other people on a pedastal, thus giving them power over you is never a good idea, regardless of how normal you are. Plus, whos to say that half the folk you look on as being so “well adjusted” aren’t just “faking it ’til they make it” like you and I? Food for thought. As I was out jogging the past few days, a mantra kept coming to mind. It goes like this:

This is about you. Its about your goals, your potential, and your recovery. It ultimately doesn’t matter what anyone else sees, says or thinks. You’re doing this for you. Be consistent as fuck. You owe it to yourself to see how far you can go, and what you can accomplish. Keep doing what you can to be the best version of yourself: physically, mentally and spiritually. Then let the results speak for themselves.

Thats a good all around reminder me thinks. I dig it.

So, as I’ve said before, comparison truly is the thief of joy. You’ve only got one life, so you owe it to yourself to take it at your pace, and live it on your terms. Remember, when it comes to the comparison game, the only way to win…is not to play. 🙂

Thanks for checking out this post, and leave me a like, subscribe and feedback if you would be so kind.

Have a great rest of the week, and I’ll see ya back here later this week.

– Andy

Hard, but not impossible.

Ya know. I gotta hand it to my family. We may not always see eye to eye, and may really rub each other the wrong way sometimes, but when I’m in the midst of an anxious, depressive funk, they do a pretty damn good job of encouraging me through it.

This last occured about a week and a half ago. My dad was visiting from out of town, and I was caught in the fallout of one of the biggest panic attacks I’d had in some time. My father is not exactly known for his way with words, but in helping my wife talk me back from the edge, he used an example that, while cliche, is hella true, and has continued to motivate me each day since. He said “I know what you’re going through is hard. Maybe it even seems like recovery is impossible, but I don’t wanna hear this crap about how you can’t do it. If there are amputees out there winning gold medals, you can change your brain, and get back to the person you were made to be.”

The talk went on a bit further, and it took me another day or so to feel decent again, but even in the better days since, this has stuck with me.

Whatever you’re going through, be it a physical or mental health issue, relationship concern, job problem, financial difficulty, anything… Let this example of the power of the human spirit inspire you. Everyone’s circumstances are different to be sure. The truth is though, if you desire to make a change…get to it. Work harder, smarter. Be better, faster, stronger. Fight like hell, and don’t give up until you win. Victory/recovery may not look like you expect it to, but honestly, the potential is very real for it to be even better.

So, thanks dad. I know you were fumbling for words, not knowing the best way to help. In doing so though, you pushed me hard, and hopefully will inspire others through this writing as well.

Keep on keepin’ on peoples, and be blessed.

– Andy

You’ll Never Know…

Hey fam.

Short post tonight, but have had this on my heart for a couple days, and wanted to get it out there…

“You’ll never know if you don’t ask.”

I have seen this play out in front of me several times over the past few days, and while I’ve heard this phrase my entire life, its finally starting to resonate with me.

This applies to so many things. Applying for a job. Asking for a raise. Asking for a discount. Giving a special request at a restaurant. Asking out that person you’ve had your eye on. So many things.

The truth is, as the old adage goes, “The worst they can say is no.” At best, you ask, and get what you want. At worst, you get better at asserting yourself, even if you get turned down. Really, its a win-win.

So, the next time you want something…ASK. Live boldly in the fact that you went for it, rather than in mediocrity/defeat by giving up without even trying. 😉

In remembrance of 9/11/01, heres a prayer for comfort for everyone that lost loved ones on that tragic day. Also, a HUGE thanks to everyone in our military that works so hard to keep us safe from all enemies, both foreign and domestic. God bless the USA.

If you’re in the path of Hurricane Florence, please be safe and smart. My prayers are with you as well.

G’nite good people, and see ya soon.

– Andy

Its Not Your Fault

Just gonna drop a little wisdom here before I roll on with the weekend. Something that hit me hard earlier this week, and has resonated with me ever since.

This is directed at anyone who struggles with issues of mental health. Anxiety, depression, PTSD, bipolar, borderline, antisocial, autism, Asperger’s, etc. Whatever aspect of mental health you struggle with, you have to realize…its not your fault. Many of these issues are genetic, or develop as the result of growing up or living in a certain kind of environment, all too often due to choices that were not our own. The things that made us who we are are often beyond our control, so its time, if you haven’t done so already, to recognize and accept that the thing we often despise and fear the most, is not our fault. Once we really begin to believe this, as an aspect of true acceptance, we can finally begin to heal and recover, at least being free of the baggage that comes with thinking that we somehow chose this life for ourselves.

Heres the kicker though: We may indeed not be responsible for developing these conditions, but one thing is for sure, we’re sure as hell responsible for what we say, do and how we conduct our affairs, after coming to grips with our illness. Even though the default wiring of our brains makes us different, and puts us at a disadvantage in some areas of life, that does not give us license to be mean, bitter or irresponsible. People with various disabilities overcome their limitations all the time to improve their quality of life, and the lives of others around them. Our calling is no different. Though it be may difficult, and it may take some time to obtain the proper resources and implement them, we owe it to ourselves, and the ones that have supported us to make every effort to recover, and give back to the people and the universe that has given us so much. In regards to recovery, I’ll be terribly cliche. No one said it would be easy. They just said it’d be worth it.

To summarize, my mantra this week has been “You don’t know what you don’t know, and you’re not responsible for that. When you do know though (acceptance), then its time to get to work, and hold yourself accountable.”

Peace and blessings to all of you out there fighting the good fight in recovery. I believe in you, and you’re doing better than you think.

Thanks for reading, and see ya next week.

– Andy

Sunshine Blogger Award!

Hello everyone!

This is a fews days late, ‘cuz, ya know…life, buttttt…

I have been nominated for the Sunshine blogger award by Accidental Blogger (Writing My Heart Out). Thank you Accidental Blogger for nominating me!

I recently discovered this guy’s blog, and despite the blog being fairly new, he is killing it! Inspiring, quality content, that really inspires reader interaction.

If you haven’t checked out his blog yet , do it now!

https://writingmyheartout25.wordpress.com/

The Rules For Sunshine Blogger Award

  • Thank to the person that nominated you.
  • Link the post back to them.
  • Display the picture on your post.
  • Answer their questions.
  • Nominate 10 bloggers.
  • Provide 11 questions for your nominees.

Questions asked :

  1. Why do you write blogs?

For a number of reasons. In no particular order, the reasons are as follows: To motivate, encourage and inspire others, via the benefit of my own life experience. To do the same for myself. To get all these ideas outta my head, and to cleanse my soul.

2. What are the top five lessons you’ve learned in your life?

Again, in no particular order:

1. Stay humble.

2. Leave the past in the past.

3. Be kind to yourself.

4. Do what you can.

5. You’re stronger than you think.

3. Are you an introvert/extrovert?

I’m definitely an introvert by nature, and by nurture, due to the way I was raised. Once I get to know a group of people or surrounding well, I can really come alive in a social setting, but that takes time for me.

4. Whos your favorite music band?

Of all time: Guns n’ Roses. Currently: Slash feat. Myles Kennedy & The Conspirators.

5. Whats the best book you’ve read and like to recommend to others?

“Unfuck Yourself” by Gary John Bishop.

6. Whats the best life advice you’ve ever gotten from someone?

“Be Yourself.”

7. Name your favorite festival.

The Autumn Leaves Festival in Mt. Airy, NC.

8. Describe a moment when you were proud of yourself.

Finally choosing to truly accept myself for who and what I am.

9. What is the one movie that has inspired you the most?

Big Fish.

10. Are you a health-concious or food freak?

Working on it!

11. If you have read my blogs, whats your favorite post written by me?

“And now I just sit in silence…”


My Nominees :

1. thebalancedbelles

2. bittermarshmallos

3. joypashiondesire

4. balancingactnicole

5. whimsicalcrazewhims

6. Monty Terry

7. inbarbsworld

8. Pooja G

9. Defining Yellow

10. Pure Glory

Questions for you:

1. What are your goals for your blog?

2. What kind of job do you have?

3. Where do you live?

4. What is the best advice you’ve ever given someone?

5. What is one thing you would like to change about yourself?

6. Do you prepare material to write about, or just go “off the cuff?”

7. Where is somewhere you’ve always wanted to travel?

8. What is your biggest goal currently?

9. Are you happy with your writing?

10. Do you believe the “Law of Attraction” is real?

11. How did you discover my blog?

Thank you so much for reading, and have a good one!